…pALaKa…

i have this girl friend who asked me if it’s normal that she and boyfriend seldom see each other.  i said it really depends on the setup.  as long as the communication is open, there should be no problem, i added.  however, she told me that they also seldom send text messages to each other.

"but do you still love him?" i asked.

"yes," she answered.

"does he still love you?"

"i guess."

"is he the one who said that you should seldom see each other?"

"not really.  actually it’s me who’s always been busy.  if you were him, what and how would you feel?"

i had to be honest to her.  so i said this: "actually at first it would be hard.  but then you know me.   i grew up in the seminary.  one thing the seminary taught me is how to adapt to changes.  in time, i guess, i’d get used to it.  but that’s the bad part.  you know it’s okay for us to let our loved ones miss us.  but it should not reach the point that they’d get used to living without us.  for this could lead to falling out of love.  you know the saying…’absence makes the heart grow fonder’…and there’s another one: ‘distance makes the heart grow apart.’  talk to him.  ask him if he’s starting to get used to living without you.  just talk.  ask him everything.  i’m sure he’ll be totally honest with you."

my friend just kept quiet.  and i just stared at the clouds.

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